Alright, to be honest I don’t miss it so much.
In particular the physical side of it, getting big, tired and out of breath. Oh and I forgot, feeling hot and having bigger feet.
I read a great piece of advice, to buy shoes one size bigger. I did it and it made my pacing up and down the Northern line, much smoother
But there are two things I do miss, a little, in fact a lot.
The special feeling of having a little human being growing in my tummy and the superior mission, of looking after this fragile little creature.
Responding to that superior mission, I did so many special things that nurtured the baby but also myself.
A healthy diet. Although I was careful, I was not too obsessed in terms of risk, so I did eat smoked salmon, which is allowed in the UK. I also washed my salad only with water, as opposed to rinsing it with vinegar, as they do in France to reduce the risk of toxoplasmosis… I know, a bit too much…oh la la!!
Having a daily rest after work or at weekends.
Lots of relaxing baths. I loved soaking in the hot water, with lovely Sanctuary Spa products, relaxing music, candles and all.
Sleeping on the left side, especially after week 32 is thought to encourage the baby to position itself in the OA (ociput anterior position which means baby’s back against your tummy), one of the optimal positions for birth.
Hypnobirthing for my first and hiring a doula for my second.
I spent a lot of time reading about the physiology of birth. I read how the signal of pain from contractions, is transmitted to our brain and especially how a different signal, the “I can cope with this” message after going through a contraction, reaches the brain even faster, causing what is known as “altered perception of pain”, or in simpler terms less pain. Dimmed lights, music, massage can help getting to that state and once there, it is easier to continue labour, feeling encouraged and euphoric.
I did reflexologie sessions as both my babies were late. Having your feet massaged is amazing, I loved it.
I took homeopathic remedies. I swear by colophylum for a quick and efficient labour. I took it for a week, after my due date with baby nr 2 and I believe it made my labour faster: 2 hours 15 minutes of active labour and a baby delivered at home, with my husband and paramedics in the last 15 minutes.
Perineal massage with almond oil. I swear by this as well, for reducing the risk of tearing.
Sex, more than now. I don’t know how that makes me and my husband look? Like tired parents of two boys, 1 and 4 year olds??
Listening to yoga nidra relaxation tracks from the Yoga Nidra Network.
There aren’t many other experiences as intense as pregnancy or giving birth. They are all consuming. Once you’ve been there it’s never the same afterwards.
That is what I miss the most, the intensity, the overwhelming euphoria from giving birth and having a new baby and all the other special things I did.
Now, if I did more of these other things, perhaps I would not be tempted to start all over again?